this is a post to help me realize what life is about. To not be ungrateful. To strengthen myself , be outspoken when I need to and quite as well. I’m going to try to manage my emotions so I don’t hold them all in and then lay them all out on my husband before bed, to just wake up the next day miserable and ashamed.
This isn’t just for me. It’s for my Son, I’m in a stage of life that every waking move I make could leave an impression on him and here I am being an emotional basket case. I need to act on my motherhood. I need to realize I am a Mom now, I need to do better.
So here I begin, by first acknowledging in a public space that I am full of mistakes and bad habits. I am a jealous, envious person that can’t stand to see my son being held and walked around without the common courtesy to ask me first. I am jealous because people have the confidence to do that they want even if it’s my child. And envious because it’s my child, how could you even be so confident to do that? To grab him when you want? To interrupt me when I’m talking about what I think is best for my son, and to try to go through my husband because he gives in to his family all the time.
Yestersay My husband and I and my son had a birthday party to go to on my husband side. It was a 16-year-old‘s birthday party and everyone who went was all on my husband‘s cousins who are in there mid 20’s and younder, some being 30’like us. Basically an older crowd. He has a really big family which I’m sure I’ve mentioned before, so everybody wanted to hold him. I often had to find myself talking to my husband and telling him to be careful and not let anyone hold him because if you let want you let them all. I don’t know what it is I just don’t like seeing my son being passed around like a hot potato. Then to top it off, one of my husbands brothers offered to hold her son so we could eat dinner with the rest of the family, I know his intentions were to hold him and just give us some time to eat. But I’m perfectly capable of doing this on my own if I have to and I don’t want to give him To his brother so that we could get distracted with the rest of the family. We have one responsibility and that is to take care of our son.
Anyways to my surprise as well as to my expectation at the same exact time, we were eating I looked around and all of a sudden my son was nowhere to be found, His brother took him for a walk in the restaurant and ended up out of sight. I started asking where he was and my husband started looking around too then we noticed he was far away, really far away so one of the cousins said don’t worry I will go get him, but I looked at my husband and I hope that he would. But he didn’t. Then one of the girl cousins said he’s just over there he’s not doing anything. So I said are you comfortable with your daughter being walked around without you not knowing where they are. And she said yeah, Which I already knew she was OK with because this is her family and she’s always been OK with her family taking her daughter and doing whatever whenever they want. But these are my in-laws and I’m just very protective over my son he’s my first son and he’s almost 3 months old. Anyways to end the story off a little abruptly we got home and I got into a big argument with my husband because I just don’t feel comfortable and I don’t know why.
But I woke up with a lot of regret and I realized I can’t do this anymore, I can’t bottle things up and then come home and take it out on my husband. I have to find the right words the strength to say it and how to say it for the sake of my little family. I might not be doing the right thing but I don’t care if I look like a possessive self-centred woman that doesn’t want to share her son then so be it.